I believe that part of being a Fabulous Mommy is preparing yourself and your children for the future. It doesn’t (and shouldn’t) always be about products and other things to make you feel good. That is why I highly recommend that anyone with a daughter check out the following book.


The Lolita Effect: The Media Sexualization of Young Girls and What We Can Do About It

This book, which I discovered in People magazine, discusses how the media distorts and undermines girl’s sexual progress by spreading myths about the way girls should dress, act and feel. We all know what they are talking about…from little girls in skimpy clothes to padded bras for children that are just hitting puberty.

There is a scene in the movie “Mean Girls” that showcases this perfectly. It’s the one when all the girls go over to Regina’s house and her little sister is standing in front of the tv flashing her chest and watching “Girl’s Gone Wild” and another time trying to dance like the video for “Milkshake (my milkshake brings all the boys to the yard…)”. She is so young and yet that is what she is aspiring to do.

(I mean I guess the whole “Mean Girls” movie falls into this category because everyone wants to be like these mean girls who are just overtly sexy when they should be finding themselves in high school.)

Even children’s toys today put an emphasis on sexy. One of the top selling dolls for kids is Bratz dolls. The book explains this by saying “The doll projects a sexuality that has more to do with working on the Sunset Strip than enjoying a healthy girlhood.”


We as parents need to be aware of this problem so we can take an active roll. It is very important that we speak to our daughters so that they understand that what makes them unique is multifaceted and that sexuality is only one part of the equation.

I highly recommend checking out this book. Click on the link above to find it on amazon.com.



  1. I’m so glad to find a mommy blogging about this and recommending this fantastic book. I am horrified to see how young girls are dressing these days. I’m not a prude, but a 12 year old girl should not be dressing like Britney Spears…or worse. But then, where can you even find decent clothes for this age anymore? The whole clothing industry seems in on the scam. And those Bratz dolls are disgusting.

  2. I also find these bratz dolls too sexy for kids and makes me think “Oh no, what kind of toys will there be when the time comes that I have kids too.

    Life has been so different from when I was growing up.I agree with you that parents need to be the role model.This is a great post.

  3. Thanks to both of you for the comments. I am glad that such an important topic is reaching people.

    Peapodsquadmom: I don’t think many people would call you a prude. I believe that cute little dresses or skirts on little girls are adorable. I just feel that at certain age a level of modesty and respect for your own body needs to be taught. It is a very hard thing to get across when so much of life emphasizes how important looks are. I am glad other moms feel the same way I do.

    Jade: I hope there are some new great toys when you have kids. Keep in mind that you can choose not to buy them. I know plenty of people who did not have Barbie growing up for the same reason.

  4. I totally agree. It is all too sensationalized out there for these young girls. They are growing up to think sex is the only thing they can control and that it is a way to function in life. To get ahead, to earn friends, to attract men.

    I will totally be aiming my daughter in another direction as she gets older, making her realize that shallow publicity does not translate into real life attitude and behavior. Respect and confidence is the most important thing you can carry in your life. If you respect others and expect that in return, more people will appreciate and be attracted to you.

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